We often hear that “time” heals. This is not true. The correction is that time does heal if we are actively working and moving through our grief. Resisting the emotions that arise in grief only solidify it until it comes around again through our life circumstances. Some feel that they will be overwhelmed like a tsunami with grief, some numb the pain, and the brave soul just surrenders and allows the normal waves of grief to come. It is in this healthy way of grieving that the shifts happen. It is always our choice, and there will either be unexpected blessings to receive or a negative weight to carry.
If we have loved we will grieve. It is the paradox of life. Grieving a major loss or working through tough transitions are taxing and draining. Unresolved grief can look and feel like depression and create anxiety as well. The hard news is it takes as long as it takes, but with support it is much easier to bear if it becomes burdensome. Gaining meaning and new perspectives from our grief experiences create new beginnings and helps us to cherish what we once held dear.